They both sobbed for the rest of the night and said they wanted to see each other, and we both felt like shit. My friend understood and kindly took the matter upon herself, even though she didn’t want to do it either. My friend informed me that she’d dealt with this before, and that the way the mom wanted it to be done was for the boys to be separated for the rest of the night, and for us to scold her son and make sure he knows that he was behaving inappropriately, because apparently this has happened enough times before with this boy and other boys that it’s becoming a problem (in the mother’s eyes, at least.)Īpparently he’s never forced himself on anybody and there’s never been any full-on intercourse - every time it’s just been some curious, consentual touching. Apparently she walked in on them both under a sheet on the bed, naked, and when she asked the boy about it he admitted that they had been touching each other. They grudgingly agreed, and after a suspiciously long time my friend thought to check on them. They were being crazy, so to calm them down a little I asked them to go into the boy’s room, close the door, and clean up a little because it was so messy and I knew his mom would be uber proud if he cleaned his room. So the boy had a friend staying the night.
She just knows how to handle things - and, despite the fact that she’s very much on our side when it comes to LGBT issues, she knows the kid’s mother well and abides by her rules, even though some of them go against her own personal beliefs.
Right, so, cut to a couple of nights ago, I’m babysitting him with my friend who babysits him a lot more often than I do, so she knows the ins-and-outs of every single rule, every behavioral problem, every routine, etc. So allow me to preface by saying that dealing with this woman is pretty much the feminist nightmare, for these and a variety of other reasons. She has the book and DVDs of "Bringing Up Boys" in her house - yes, by James Dobson, the man from Focus on the Family who believes that homosexuality is a disorder that can be cured, and whose idea of raising a boy is staunchly encouraging him to do nothing but Manly Man Things. His mother is a very conservative, born-again Christian who is not cool with gay folks. So there you have it – the main differences between a twink and a pup for gay men.I’ve been babysitting this one little boy, who’s now 7, for about two years. After they’ve been out awhile and been exposed to dating, apps, bars, hookups, etc – they then graduate to another classification. Remember, the defining trait for a pup is their newness to the gay world. Pups can also have body hair or be smooth. Pups can be of all body types, including slender and muscular or roundish and heavy (not the same as a gay cub). Many pups are newbies to our gay world, just taking their first few steps of self-discovery as part of coming out. In gay-speak, “pups” are fairly young (18-early 20’s) with the defining feature of having almost zero experience in the gay universe. That’s a twink subtype in case you didn’t know.įYI: Technically speaking, twinks can also be pups but they aren’t exactly the same. You see, if a twink is referred to as having pretty features, they are referred to as a glamour twink. Many gay men mistakenly think of “Twinks” as pretty but that would be incorrect. There really isn’t a universally agreed upon construct here.
Twinks are often thought of as smooth but they can also have body hair. Usually, they are in their 20’s and have boyish features. Example twink TWINK DEFINEDįor the most part, a twink is a guy who has a slender build. While I don’t pretend to be an expert, I will give you the basics of what I found out. Hey, you have to have something to talk about when you’re checking out the meat at the bar, right?Īfter we all went home that night – empty handed I might add – I started to do some research on twinks and pups.
His bit of insight then led to an hour long conversation about the larger topic of gay twinks and pups – plus a few other labels thrown in for good measure – like wolves and otters.